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HIMYM review Season 3 Episode 7 “Dowisetrepla”

Image We find Marshall and Lily desiring to have a place of there own in “Dowistrepla”. Ted’s bachelor ways are becoming a thorn in the married side of Lily and Marshall. Marshall discovers an apartment for sale in an area called “Dowistrepla”. Despite Lily being from New York, the couple are unfamiliar with the neighborhood. Marshall and Lily, and eventually the rest of the gang, check out the apartment and learn it is beautiful. Despite Robin’s attempt to convince Lily to wait on the apartment because of her credit card debt, both Lily and Marshall agree to buy the apartment as a place to raise their future children.

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Barney also takes an interest in the apartment but only because he wants to use the place to sleep with his new fling Meg, played by April Bowlby, and leave the next morning. The next day, Lily and Marshall venture to the bank to apply for a loan to buy the apartment. Despite Lily’s master plan of applying for the loan under just Marshall’s name, they apply jointly and miraculous are approved with an enormous interest rate. This is when Marshall finds out about Lily’s credit card debt but not by Lily, by the mortgage banker. Ted, Robin and Barney return to the old apartment and discover evidence of a fight between Lily and Marshall. Ted uses his “detective skills” from his childhood detective club, or lack there of, to determine Lily and Marshall fought over peanut butter before Marshall stormed out. Robin tries to tell Ted and Barney the real cause of the fight is due to Lily’s credit card debt but Ted doesn’t buy it. Instead he tries to prove his point by hitting redial on the living room phone. The trio is shocked when they find the last call placed was to a divorce attorney.

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Marshall and Lily return to the old apartment and explain they aren’t getting divorced. Lily offered to divorce Marshall on paper so the could get the loan under just Marshall’s name. But in one of Marshall’s most romantic gestures yet, he refused to divorce Lily because he married her along with her problems. Lily and Marshall also inform the trio they also bought the apartment despite Lily’s debt. The next morning, Lily and Marshall take a cab to their new apartment but are met with a horrendous outdoor. The cab driver informs them the neighborhood ┬áis down wind from the sewage treatment plant, hence the name “Dowistrepla”.

“Dowistrepla” continued the advancement of Marshall and Lily’s growing married life as another main focus of How I Met Your Mother. The fact that Marshall has said there are three major mistakes in his life including buying the apartment in “Dowistrepla” and shaving his head at his wedding was a great nod to one of my favorites scenes from season two. The detective bit with Ted was a great, light-hearted way to show Marshall and Lily’s fight without distracting from the humor and delusion of Ted’s childhood. I think this episode was an episode of necessity. Lily and Marshall had to find a new place to continue their story and this apparent blunder of an apartment will give us many storylines for the future. Carter Bays and Craig Thomas seem to always have one eye in the past and continue to show us hindsight is 20/20. First they had Lily give the speech in “Milk” about making a mistake because that is the only way you know it’s a mistake and now they added the scenes of “what everyone should have said”.

My favorite scene was when Ted told Robin, “There’s a reason your name’s Robin, not Batman”.

Cheers.

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December 23, 2005

December 23, 2005

Life is funny, you like to think that you know the times in your life that are important and you will remember them. My experiences have led me to believe that you don’t know the important moments in your life until they have passed. I didn’t realize it until much later that December 23, 2005 would be so important to me. December 23, 2005 was the last Christmas my parents were married to each other.

I know I am rolling a few days in with December 23, but you have to understand that my family does not know how to stay married and that has led me to having four different Christmases to attend. Quite often my normal holiday schedule will look like this:

– Aunt Janette’s (Dad’s aunt’s side) the weekend before or after Christmas

– Grandma Teri’s (Dad’s mother’s side) Christmas day around noon

– Grandma Vickie’s (Dad’s step mother’s side) Christmas day at six

– Grandma Vicki’s (Mom’s side) Christmas Eve at six

I was unaware at the time that my parent’s marriage was failing. They tried their best to keep me in the dark until I graduated from high school, six months later. I look back at Christmas 2005 and realize that was the last Christmas that I was a child. My parents divorce hit me really hard. Looking back, I realize they were too young to truly know who they were or what they wanted out of life.

When my parents were married, we were able to group a couple of family branches together and have a super Christmas with about 25 people. After the divorce, we went to the aforementioned schedule. That schedule is not only tiring, but also sucks the holiday spirit out of Christmas. I openly admit to people that I am not a religious person; the holidays to me are not about religion. The holidays are about getting together with your family and celebrating another year together. My holiday now is spent trying to figure out how to cram every Christmas together and how much longer I have before moving on to the next stop.

My parents divorce ultimately led to me the biggest lesson from parents, do not get married young, but I am haunted by my ghost from December 23, 2005. I am haunted by the feeling that I am not enjoying the holidays, that my family is getting older and I am staying the same age. I envy that boy from 2005. He did not not know a time when his parents were not together, a time when his family was not complete. He had not graduated college and realized there was more he should have done. He had not lost some of the family that he has wrote about. All that boy knew was high school was almost over and this would be the best Christmas so far. Unfortunately is was the best Christmas ever.